Tracey Haider-Sprague, a homeschooling mother of two, is also the Training Director for Small Beginnings, a Lay Ministry Training Organization in Seattle, Washington where she researches, writes, teaches and counsels. She, along with her entire family, began their low-carb lifestyle in April 2003.
Tracey posts as ‘Mamasita’ on the Talking Low Carb Forums, where she proves an inspiration for us all!
"People would rather be wrong than be different."
I was standing on the sidelines of a second graders' soccer practice one evening.
Having been a soccer mom for both my kids a collective five years, I have had my share
of parents who either coalesced as a group or simply didn't. This year I was rather
happy to see that the moment I arrived for my son's first practice, the mothers were
sociable and actively began introducing themselves. They seemed genuinely glad to include
me in their group. I was pleased since I dislike standing there in the cold, wind, and
wetness with little to do but watch a mob of kids run from one end of the field to the other,
rarely being able to kick the ball. Ah, the life of a soccer mom.
But the pleasure of this company was to fade quickly on the evening of the second practice. Another
mother arrived and I was surprised to see that she was a relative of a very good friend
of mine. As it turned out, the rule of six degrees of separation applied that night. Everyone in
this group seemed to have known everyone else previously, or was in some way related — the-cousin-of-a-sister-in-law-of-a-friend-of-a-brother...
Five minutes into practice, the group began chatting and wrapped their Fall
jackets about themselves to stay warm in the dimming light. The new member of the group
began recounting the tale of her son's latest birthday. All was sweetness and light until she began
to tell of how horrible it was that when the goody bags were being handed out, "that one
child" had refused it, saying he was on Atkins. He didn't eat sugar. She continued, "His
mother is on Atkins and she has lost so much weight! She is looking so good! But I felt
so awful that I couldn't give him a goody bag. All the other children were eating the
candy and I had to take all the candy out of his bag. He hardly had anything left! It was
so unfair to him!"
Copyright © October 2003 Tracey Haider-Sprague and Low Carb Luxury
Well, as it happens, I too know a mother who does Atkins. She's a dear friend. Her son's lost over thirty pounds and is doing well in school. He's stayed on plan and is doing great! I volunteered, cheerfully, that my whole family was doing
Atkins also, in order to support her in absentia. This is when the woman lost her
She came within eight inches of my face. As she spoke, her head tilted back, her eyes
shut closed and her voice became so shrill that everyone on the sidelines turned to see
who was yelling.
"I just don't think it's FAIR to the kids, you know what I mean?" She said in a high
pitched whine. "I mean, if you want to do Atkins and think it's good for YOUR kids then
of course that's YOUR decision, but I just couldn't DO THAT to MY kids. It's so HARD
on our kids today. How could they possibly not eat SUGAR!" She repeated this like a
broken record at least five times in quick succession and since I've had training dealing
with all kinds of people in all kinds of moods, I kept calm and just let her go for it.
Another lady, who by the way is doing Protein Power, came to my rescue by diverting this
woman's attention to her new coat and she happily darted from one subject to the next,
leaving me to contemplate what I had just stepped into. Since the practice still had
forty-five minutes to go, unfortunately the low carb life came up repeatedly and whenever
it did, she ranted on the sugar issue and parents who lack true concern for their kids.
Later, driving home with my worn out seven year old, I was thankful for the relative
quiet of my van. I knew there was something very odd about her attitude but it took me
a while to sort it out in my head...
Suddenly it hit me. She had turned sugar into a moral issue.
In her mind, parents who deprived their children of sugar were not good parents,
and she was. It was mind boggling to me. Never once have I thought that I was a better or
worse parent on this point.
I've seen articles written, "Good Carb, Bad Carb." I've seen posts on different forums
talking about bananas are BAD and lettuce is GOOD. Granted, processed foods, whether low
carb or regular sugar and flour laden fare, have their problems. Either they have no
nutritional value at all and actually cause health issues for some people, or there are
debates on sugar alcohols and whether these items perpetuate cravings. But since when
did regular unprocessed, non-refined foods become good or bad?
There is nothing intrinsically evil about a potato and whole wheat bread won't get you
a stint in jail. No one is going to go to a very hot place eating corn and someday (I
hope sooner than later) when I reach goal and can enjoy being on maintenance, I don't
think my friends will end our relationship because I have carrot in my chicken soup.
I remembered the time I went to dinner at a friend's house. This family enjoys rice, and
indulges in quite an abundance of it. But there was also a huge, beautiful filet of salmon,
plus a delicious salad. The husband offered me rice... I politely declined. He knew I was
on Atkins, but still looking a little forlorn said, "The rice is bad?" At that
moment it occurred to me that no, rice is NOT bad! "No, of course, rice isn't bad.
It just causes my insulin to go up suddenly and for now, I need to lay off. I would
love to have some rice. It looks and smells delicious, but I think I'll pass for
now." His face relaxed into a smile. His rice wasn't bad. I'm the one with a
physical condition that needed tending to.
I probably will not eat white rice again, but that is my choice. I have no idea of
what the statistics are, but a large portion of the world thrives on rice. I can't
tell you how many articles I've read that say Asian countries have far less
health concerns than in America, and their diet is filled with rice! I don't think
they consider rice as "bad". (It should be noted here, though, that the rice most of
the world indulges in is not the over-processed super-gummy/starchy variety so common
on American dinner tables.)
Low Carb diets... er... lifestyles are gaining popularity at an ever increasing rate.
Along with this "movement" comes jargon that can be helpful or not. Categorizing
certain foods as good or bad is only a step away from categorizing people as good
or bad. Have you found yourself as a low carber looking on in horror at the overweight
person next to you downing a doughnut? What are the sentences that weave themselves
through your mind?
I remember the days, not so long ago, when I thought I was being loving by making
chocolate chip cookies with my two boys. I remember feeling so worn out and tired
that a homemade raisin scone with tea was just the pick me up. Those days are over
as I now realize they weren't helpful in my battle with my weight. At no time was I a
bad mother, bad person, bad daughter, bad friend.
I am a strong advocate for the plan I'm on and I know others who are as well. But
even within my own family, I have seen my own seven year old, who has been skinny
and athletic since he exited the womb, not have an issue with insulin resistance.
He is one of the blessed ones, who knows when to stop eating, runs around all the
time, and often refuses dessert because he feels full from dinner. The absence of
sugar from our home surely isn't going to hurt him, but I believe that he could
probably have eaten a typical diet and never had a weight problem. His older
brother is different. I am different. We all are different and many people have
lost weight and lowered their cholesterol on a myriad of different plans. I
just never did until THIS plan.
When I got home from the soccer debacle, I asked my children if they felt "deprived"
food wise. They both gave me strange looks and funny smiles. "No!" They said in
wonder. "We get good food all the time!" I asked, "Do you feel like you don't get
enough sweets?" "We get Jell-O, homemade ice cream, muffins, and berries and
whipped cream! We get sweets! We even get sugar free chocolate once in a while!"
And that said it all. This bad, bad mother is quite happy...
Luscious Semolina Taste & Texture... Just 5 g Carbs/Serving!
Low Carb KETO Spaghetti Is Here!
You Can Love the Taste of Spaghetti Again!
Yes, we've conquered the low carb spaghetti taste barrier... So you can enjoy really delicious
KETO SPAGHETTI without worrying about carbohydrates!
Keto Spaghetti is low carb – just 5 grams effective carbs per serving!
It's high protein – 22 grams per serving for more energy and much longer lasting hunger relief.
It's low calorie with just 110 calories!
And of course, it's zero fat.
It's the guilt-free spaghetti that's got all the nutritional
bases covered plus a taste and texture that are simply amazing! That's why Keto Spaghetti is the
perfect meal for all low carb/high protein dieters or anyone watching their weight. Safe for
diabetics. Check out Low
Carb Luxury's review of Keto Spaghetti! Bon Appetit!
Net Wt. 8 oz. (226 g) 6 servings.
Keto Spaghetti is available from The Low Carb Connoisseur